What about your Love affairs?

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One of my colleagues wants me to write a blog on my affairs/love life. There are surely many more interesting things under the sun to write about. But why shy away from one such topic. If you ask me, I won't term any of the relationships that I ever had as an affair. The moment we say affair, I believe we give it a not so likeable face. I would say that I have had the opportunity to get closely connected to many people, intellectually over time. It had always been a matter of mind and never a matter of the heart. Some were short term, some were long term, some stretched over a very,very short period. I do not regret any of it. It has been a way of God, I believe, to help me understand the different facets of love. The different ways it can come to you. The different ways you can feel it. Society tends to shape and define love in many ways. They try to define it on the basis of gender,age,culture,colour,caste,religion,language, marriage,to name a few. The moment we try to succumb ourselves to such definitions of love, we limit ourselves to a wide variety of experiences that might come on our way. I don't blame people. I was like that as a teenager. Then a miracle happened. I started reading. I started empowering myself with strong opinions. Today, I feel old and experienced in matters of love. Love comes with happiness,ache, adrenaline rush and so much more. Love also helps you grow and it need not be a successful love story always. It need not have a happy ending always. It might break your spirit and mind often. But what a beautiful feeling even that is- to feel pain. To feel alive. To feel that it might happen to you again. So yeah, my love life has been a series of such bumpy rides. It left me high spirited at times. At other times it left me all low and aching. But at the end of the day, the pain, experience has added to my wisdom. I am not done yet. I know I will have many more experiences and that would  make me be  more human with each passing day.  Why always define love? Why always expect and why give to the ways of the world, when you can always " wander lonely as a cloud " and still be in love?  

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