Are you truly a Feminist?

One of my friends that I know, goes on nagging about how girls should not be married at an early age. According to her things have changed, and marrying at an early age does not work towards empowering women. A very vague concept for one who claims to be a feminist. I too believe personally that marriage of girls can be avoided at an early age, but I have reasons very different from my friend. To this friend I would say, that marrying at an early age does not always mean bondage. If someone wishes to and is pretty confident and adamant about getting married at 21 or 22, then why stop that woman? How can someone claim oneself to be a feminist and do exactly what Patriarchy does to the women population. Have I not discussed this before? By burdening someone with your opinions and what what you think is right make you what you don't want to be. A woman can be an excellent housewife and that does not always mean that she is less ambitious. Her decision to marry at an early age, does not necessarily make her a savage. Yes, I believe it becomes all the more challenging for that woman to play both the roles or get the best of both the worlds, but then there is no harm to wish to remain or to just play the role of a housewife. There is indeed nothing to be looked down upon. I have seen my mother as 'just' a housewife or a homemaker,as I say, and I respect her way too much for keeping the family safe and intact. I admire her for being so calm in the hardest and worst of situations, and emerging beautifully and victoriously. I know the pain it takes to be her and at the same time, I also know the guts it requires to be in her shoes. I am proud of my homemaker mother. The problem is, people now a days become feminists, because that's the current trend (as I have said before). Very few can contemplate the situation, very few can feel it deeply. Sigh.