Dear Zindagi

I like watching Bollywood movies,but I don't love all of them because most are mere action movies or based on a love triangle,or revolving around some incomplete love story (which is still likeable),unless it turns into a complete and fulfilling love story,which I find way too Utopian.Talking about movies,I watched 'Dear Zindagi',and though not too captivating,the movie was refreshing.It did for a moment,indeed talk about parenting and as I have already mentioned it in one of my previous posts,that this is really an ISSUE,to be talked about,to be discussed.Even the intellectual middle class and upper class pretend to care a lot about it,but the major crisis of such parenting issues take place within this social circle itself.I will give an example.If a girl from a middle class family becomes pregnant,her parents decide to move her house and they,along with her try to settle somewhere else.If not that,they psychologically torture her ,that is to say torture her enough,which finally ends up with the girl attempting suicide and sometimes,the parents decide to kill their daughters themselves.But in the lower classes,things are more acceptable.Obviously,they have their problems as well,quite similar to what the upper middle class think,and sometimes even worse, worse is DEATH,which is again common to all the classes but the lower classes are lucky in a way because they don't always think about the society;in villages they do of course and most of the times,it ends up with the marriage of the girl,based on a decision by the PANCHAYAT.But they are more considerate towards what they think as a mistake and not a grave mistake.They are more supportive and less haunting and considering that most of them do not fall in the literate group,that sort of compensates.I am not saying Parenting is all about caring for a child who has accidentally got Pregnant,or caring for a child who is drug addicted.It is so much more and that is why I feel that the colleges and universities in India,should,introuduce a separate branch of studies based on Parenting.Talking about 'Dear Zindagi',it brings up the talk about parenting,but does not linger on it for long.It talks about the long term consequences of neglect,and does not focuss on the immediate ones,and even if it does,it is for so short a time that the message does not sink in the minds too much.But on the other hand the relationship of a mentor and subject,which does not necessarily have to end as a romantic affair,again makes the movie more realistic and less Utopian.Reminds me of Shaw's 'Pygmalion'.Experimenting on different chairs before choosing the most comfortable one,is what Dr.Khan advices his subject,when the subject is dealing with the trauma of break ups and link ups.Even that seemed to be a very realistic depiction because we don't need to end up marrying the guy we kissed for the first time,or marrying the one we have slept with.On a whole I suggest my readers to watch this movie.I would also love to make it clear,that it is a one time watch and it could have been better if it was not run on the commercial lines.